July 03, 2013

Dear Jayne,

Thank you Jayne for your reply.  The Advisory Council read it fully and
had numerous deep discussions about our decision. Everyone in the
community likes Jayne. Jayne is a pleasant to live with. We do feel that
Jayne is more capable than Jayne believes herself to be.

From your responses it is clear that Jayne does not understand the concept
of being a responsible adult. At this time the Advisory Council feels that
being a member at Diverse Matrix Community is not a good fit for Jayne or
the community.

Jayne is welcome to apply again when Jayne has a better understanding that
Jayne would be doing things in the community because Jayne desires to do
it and that Jayne desires to live here at DMC and is able to demonstrate
it.
The AC is in negotiation with Jayne’s partner with a plan for a nonmember
living at DMC. There are a few stipulations that will not change that is
that the AC will expect that Jayne will continue to follow through on your
tasks and making clear agreements with other community members. Follow the
community guidelines and agreements.

Also should DMC need the space for active community members then Jayne
would be given 30 days notice to move from DMC.

Thank you,
AC1
AC2
AC3

*Sent directly to Tesa at her private email because it was *not* a community or AC issue:

In response to your threatening text of 12NOV14:

I have come to the conclusion that there is absolutely no way to bridge the gap between us and I am simply unwilling to go any further in attempting to meet you halfway.  No matter what I say or how I say it or even the very carefully chosen words I try to use when saying it, I am wrong.  Even when I am offended and angry I use calm tones and mature language to communicate with you and everyone and never once have I given you a reason to think the worst of me and yet, every single time, you have misunderstood my tone or my meaning without even attempting to give me the benefit of the doubt and I’m just not going to play that game.

If you want to block me then do that.  I find you to be manipulative and belittling to me and I’m not interested in retaliation, I’m somewhat more mature than that, but I really don’t feel the need to go out of my way to associate with you with the intentions to be close friends with you anymore.  I intend to continue living here and I am still interested in being a community member of DMC and toward that end I am willing to do my part as a team player.  If you are the chosen spokesperson of the AC to come to agreements with me about what my role is in the community then that’s fine I’ll work with you.  And I will be civil and respectful to you, there’s no reason for me to be aggressive even if that were ever my inclination even once in my life, just don’t expect me to be buddy buddy with you, I understand you as well as I care to.  I’m completely done and won’t engage in further conversation about it at this point but you are welcome to take the matter up with Gene if you like.

Jayne

Date: Sat, Nov 29, 2014 at 10:21 PM
Subject: DMC Advisory Council instructions

The DMC Advisory Council met on Friday 28NOV2014

Gene was instructed to inform Jayne as follows:

1. Until further notice, Gene will continue to be responsible for Jayne as a long term guest with a Support Advisor to Gene (Tali).

2. Jayne will write down agreements made with community members and check with those members when she feels they have been fulfilled. (for instance, checking with area liaison before assuming a task has been completed)

3. Jayne to read, understand, and use the community processes (Clearing, Resolving of Problems, etc).

4. No change at this time in regard to living space.

January 12th, 2015

Dear Jayne,

On November 29th the Advisory Council suggested a list of recommendations
to you through Gene. The Advisory Council of DMC has noticed that in the
last month you did not fulfill the two requests (numbers 2 and 3). We are
out of suggestions at this time and unsure how to proceed. What do you
wish to do about the situation? This has been a recurring issue (please
refer to August 2013 communication about our requests for you to fulfill
agreements and use DMC processes).
Lastly, the Advisory Council of DMC strongly urges you to clean up the
situation regarding a November 12, 2014 email in which you state you will
not deal with another community member. This is unacceptable. All at DMC
agree to utilize DMC processes to clear up issues. You may seek
assistance in using the processes at any time. However, stating “I’m
completely done and won’t engage in further conversation about it at this
point” is not a harmonious way to communicate at DMC. We agree to be
civil with each other at DMC. Everyone does not have to be friends.